All Men Aren't The Same, But Why Do They Act Like It?

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This is a question I ask myself constantly. Where have all the real men gone? Why are we living in a world full of boys? I always imagined that I would experience wonderful rom-com-esqe relationships in my 20's. But of course, reading romance novels led me down the path to believe that it would happen. True love really does seem like a fairytale. But, has romance always been like this? Is sex the only thing men really care about?

This concept is a tough topic to talk about - will we ever know why the male brain functions the way it does? But really, why do all men act the same? Is it a generational problem or have they always been like this? Part of me believes it has to be a problem with this generation. I know so many wonderful men from older generations who are such gentlemen, but what changed? What made men start prioritizing sex over valuing the woman? 

I'm going to be completely honest here - my first time was shit. When I was 15 l spoke to a guy who pretended he liked me. One day he invited me round to his house and it happened. Of course, it was shit, and was the least romantic thing I've ever experienced - but I was happy because I thought he liked me. The older I get the more I realise that the sole reason I went through with it was because I thought he would like me if I did it. But no, of course, that didn't happen. Two weeks later he told me he didn't like me and confirmed that he only spoke to me for one reason.

I had been used - I was CRUSHED. The special romantic first time that I dreamed of would never happen just because a boy wanted sex. This situation really did affect the way my teenage self viewed love. For years I thought the only way I could be loved was if I gave something to a guy in return. But now I've realised one thing, men can be slimey pigs.

Do I think men will ever want love again? I hope so. I'm sure one day these immature boys will turn into real men and settle with the person they love. But for now? If you are worrying about why he doesn't like you, or why you aren't good enough, just remember you are a goddess who is worth so much more.

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