Age Is Just A Number, Or Is It?

Why do we desire an older man? Why are men our age not good enough for us? This is the question we constantly ask ourselves. I speak for myself, a 20-year-old woman, when I say that every man my age is a boy. But, why is that?

Why are all the men my age boys? Why can't men act their age?
A man's upbringing can play a big part in his maturity level and the way he treats women. If a guy is a serious "mummy's boy," then be careful. I've often experienced that mummy's boys can be the most immature of the lot. But why? If a guy has been brought up as "mummy's little angel," then he's more than likely used to getting everything he wants and constantly being the center of attention. But why does this make a guy immature? Well, since they are so used to getting anything they want, they don't know what to do when the dreaded day arrives, and they don't get their way.This is something that men learn over time. So, no wonder the older man is more appealing to us.

Men and women don't think the same way. Their emotional maturity levels differ from birth. Emotional maturity is a spectrum, not every man has a low level, and not every woman has a high one, though it is more likely for women to mature emotionally faster. But how does a low emotional maturity level affect a relationship? A low emotional maturity level significantly impacts relationships, quite often in a negative way. It can frequently lead to disagreements, loneliness, and even cheating.

But, why do men cheat? Is it a question of maturity? Do they love the rush they get from adultery? The excitement of hiding something from their significant other? Most men don't cheat to hurt their partner's feelings but do it to feel like they have power, power over their mistress and power over their partner. They are driven by testosterone, something impossible for us women to understand.

That is why it hurts us so much. We can't understand their actions. Men love sex, sometimes even more than they love their partners or wives. It's like a drug to them. But younger men aren't the only ones who are sex-driven, older men are too. The difference is that is sex is newer for a younger guy, so it's more
exciting for them, they are thirsty for it. Meanwhile, the older man has experience in sex and relationships.

Is the experience and financial security from an older guy comforting for us? Of course, it is. It's not about age, it's about what age represents. Obviously, not every young man is immature, and not every older man is a perfect gentleman, but there's a certain je ne sais quoi about a man who knows exactly who he is and what he wants.

So yeah, maybe age isn't just a number after all.

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